After a 33 year career of Denver matchmaking it is clear to me that my clients are so patient and willing to wait for the right person to come along.  To help them with that goal I give every client an open ended contract, meaning they are a client until….until they meet that right person who goes the distance.

More than half of the marriages through Bon Jour Matchmaking Service happened at that first interview when a new client was presented with the perfect match.  I lit the fire, and the rest is history.  But others have taken longer on one side or both.  Remember, this is matchmaking NOT buying a package of dates (that’s a dating service).  Thus, several things need to match up on both sides and then have chemistry.  But the majority of marriages have come from the first or second match made through Bon Jour…

What does that mean?

Throughout the 32 year history of Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, the majority of the 300+ couples who married sealed the deal with either their first or second introduction.  NO that doesn’t mean you HAVE to marry the first or second person you meet.  My goal is to be so discriminating in matching people who fit each other’s preferences and criteria that regardless of how long it takes for those matches to present themselves they will be so spot on that they culminate in marriage.

I am writing this post to clarify this statement in that it has been misinterpreted a couple of times.  There is no pressure or requirement to marry the first or second person you meet.  This is merely an observation from over a quarter of a century of matchmaking in Denver.

A matchmaking service is not a dating service.  A matchmaker, by…

1. Bon Jour: One matchmaker who has interviewed EVERY client face-to-face/Local Services: Multiple “matchmakers” who only know the clients they’ve sold and have not met and interviewed all clients;
2. Bon Jour: Every client is interviewed in the privacy of my office face-to-face/Local Services: Many of these do zoom interviews or have people fill out forms on the computer. Many interview in public places with no privacy;
3. Bon Jour: Every client has a 6-page profile along with a minimum of 6 current pictures/Local Services: Client has no idea what their match looks like and never gets to view a full profile, if any profile, of their match;
4. Bon Jour: Every client decides for themselves along with my input who they would like to meet/Local Services: THEY dictate who you meet, and you have no say. You are stuck with who…

Open-ended contract…you are a client until you reach your goal;

One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

33 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;

Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;

 Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights. Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

Recently I’ve had the experience with several new clients when they initially called asking what an “open-ended contract” meant.  Other Denver matchmaking services may refer to it as a “Lifetime Contract” or a “Platinum Package” and charge you a lot extra to have that benefit.  EVERY client of Bon Jour has an open-ended contract!  That’s the way it should be if you are a REAL matchmaker.  You never know when that right person will appear, and you want to be there when they do!  The longest so far that I’ve worked with a client is 11 years and she DID get married in that 11th year to a man who became a widower the year before and joined my service after that…see, you never know when…

My feeling is that calling it a Lifetime Contract or package is kind of depressing. Also that is not what I mean by open-ended.

Now in my almost 34th year practicing matchmaking I’ve developed a new plan that can make you your investment fee back if the situation fits.

After you become a client of this Denver matchmaking service, if you meet someone either in or outside the service and cultivate a long and hopefully permanent relationship I’m inviting you to either GIFT or SELL your place in Bon Jour.  This also applies if you move out of state.  If you SELL your place you cannot sell it for more than you paid, so you would have to ask me what you paid if you don’t remember.  The prospective buyer MUST MEET ALL BON JOUR MATCHMAKING CRITERIAfirst or I will NOT honor the sale.  There are NO REFUNDS from Bon Jour Matchmaking Service or Michele Fields.  If you gift your place in Bon Jour there will be a $500 transfer fee for the…

Every week I receive calls from singles who have used or spoken to other local Denver matchmaking services. What shocks me every time is the few questions these people ask the other services. Maybe because I conduct at least a 1 hour preliminary phone consultation they think of more questions to ask me…I don’t know. But these are the types of questions you should ask when looking for a Denver matchmaker.

1. Does the person who will be matchmaking me know ALL of the clients?
2. How long have you been in business?
3. How many marriages have you had?
4. Where is the interview conducted? In a quiet, private place or at a coffee shop or hotel?
5. Are you matching me with YOUR clientele or with other local matchmakers? Have you interviewed and met those clients if they are not yours?
6. Have they interviewed and met with every client?
7. What are the different…

I do not decide exclusively upon my own criteria whether we should work together. Primarily that has been decided by my current clients who have been very specific as to their preferences and criteria…just like you would be if you were a client. Bon Jour is the ONLY Denver matchmaking service that does not have ANY reviews stating the client was set up with people who did not fit their specified criteria. So, don’t take it personally and don’t blame the messenger (me) if I feel that we shouldn’t work together. Rather be grateful that I told you the truth and did not scam you out of your money!

Just to try and make things simpler, following is a list of traits that will tell you if you and Bon Jour Matchmaking Service are a good match which include both my perimeters and my clients’ criteria:

1. You have read to…

I received a call from a gentleman the other week who explained that he had just spoken with a Denver dating coach/”matchmaker” who quoted him the following fees:

For a 6 month contract $7500

If he should marry someone she introduces him to she receives a $25,000 bonus

This is a person who has only been in this business a couple of years.  There is absolutely no reason to pay fees like that.  They are out of line in general and definitely out of line for Denver singles.  Just because you pay enormous fees doesn’t mean you will have any more success in that service.

It seems like Denver matchmakers are trying to out do each other with over-the-top fees.  This has nothing to do with the clients only how much money these people can make to top each other.

As the oldest Denver matchmaker (33+ years) and the most…

Something that my clients often thank me for which is not necessarily something I write a lot about is the quality of clients in Bon Jour.

I so often have to decline working with people who I perceive from our conversation and/or interaction are not invested enough, communicative and/or reliable.  Because many of my clients have used Internet dating sites and/or local Denver matchmaking services, MeetUps, lunch services or dinner gatherings and found people not to follow through or seem invested in finding a life long relationship, they truly appreciate my discretion in which singles really fit their goal.

I’m always grateful and somewhat surprised when a client thanks me for turning someone down.  This is what they expect of me…to filter only the most appropriate candidates for them to meet.

As I have said in previous posts, I start evaluating from our first interaction (whether it be phone or…