DENVER MATCHMAKING FEES AND SERVICES INVESTIGATED

Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields's avatarBon Jour Matchmaking Service

Like any business owner I periodically Google Denver matchmaking services to see what is going on in the Denver market.  Recently I’ve viewed two services that are only TWO years old that are charging more than I am after 25 years!  So I investigated further…are they offering services I’m not?  In actuality they are offering less services than I am.  In addition on their websites they cite the term “their Matchmakers” blah blah blah and I know for a fact that they are the only “matchmaker” at their companies.  I don’t know why they would lie right off the top on their websites about how many “matchmakers” they have.  I’ve always felt that it was a benefit to have one Matchmaker who knows all of the clients.  But of course that presumes that one is doing the act of matchmaking rather than selling packages of a certain number…

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THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN BON JOUR MATCHMAKING & DENVER DATING SERVICES

  1. Bon Jour: One matchmaker who has interviewed EVERY client face-to-face/Local Services: Multiple “matchmakers” who only know the clients they’ve sold and have not met and interviewed all clients;
  2. Bon Jour: Every client is interviewed in the privacy of my office face-to-face/Local Services: Many of these do zoom interviews or have people fill out forms on the computer. Many interview in public places with no privacy;
  3. Bon Jour: Every client has a 6-page profile along with a minimum of 6 current pictures/Local Services: Client has no idea what their match looks like and never gets to view a full profile, if any profile, of their match;
  4. Bon Jour: Every client decides for themselves along with my input who they would like to meet/Local Services: THEY dictate who you meet, and you have no say. You are stuck with who they fix you up with;
  5. Bon Jour: In January this service will celebrate 34 years of professional matchmaking in Denver/Local Services: NONE are anywhere near this age with these many years of success and knowledge. Many are new start-ups and/or satellite offices from large franchises based in other cities;
  6. Bon Jour: Your FREE phone consultation lasts as long as necessary and is NOT a sales call, but merely an exchange of information. I do not continue to call and bug people to join the service. They need to be a willing and motivated client./Local Services: Many make you fill out a form online, many make you schedule an appointment to come in so they can give you the hard sell. Then continue to call again and again to solicit you as a client;
  7. Bon Jour: Every client has an open-ended contract at no extra fee. I have no idea when the perfect person will present themselves, so you want to be here when they do. It is one of the best qualities about this service./Local Services: They have multiple plans at multiple fees. The longer the contract the higher the fee. Then VIP contracts. It’s confusing and ridiculous;
  8. Bon Jour: One time investment fee regardless of how long a client is in the service. No monthly or annual fees. Merely a $35 per introduction fee upon meeting someone. I do a background check on every client for FREE/Local Service: They nickel and dime you to death. If they do a background check they will charge you, but you never see it, so you are taking their word for even doing one. They often charge monthly and/or annually because of their limited contracts;
  9. Bon Jour: Is not affiliated with any so-called licensing companies BECAUSE Bon Jour has been in business long before those companies existed, and they are just a gimmick to make money from independent matchmaking and dating services. They are meaningless.

RIDICULOUS COMMENTS FROM SINGLES CALLING FOR MATCHMAKING SERVICES

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Because I encourage Denver singles to phone me to discuss the service and their individual goals people say the darnedest things! Some of the comments Denver singles have made that are ridiculous and maybe give a slight hint why they are still single are:

Your website is too feminine and I’m a marketing expert and don’t feel that you will attract enough men…the response to that is I’ve had more than 300 marriages and half of those were MEN! Giving single Denver men credit for having enough sense to go by content rather than appearance of a website that is a ridiculous comment. I receive more calls from men then from women.

I’ve met 100 women through anInternet dating service, it’s a numbers game...It’s only a numbers game if you make it one. Either he wasn’t too particular or he’s impossible to please and that’s why…

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WHAT AM I PAYING FOR AT BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE?

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CALL ME…This is NOT a “sales” call, merely an exchange of information.

When you decide to become a client of Bon Jour Matchmaking you pay a one-time investment fee.What you are basically investing in is the invaluable time to work with me for as long as it may take to find the right person for you through the open-ended contract and coaching along the way.

There are no monthly or annual fees. No re-sign up fees due to myopen-ended contract. YourInvestment Feepays for the following:

  • It covers all the time spent before you become a client on advice and information in your phone consultation which could be more than one call before you decide to come in;
  • A Matchmaker who knows all of her clients personally and has interviewed each and every one;
  • 32 years of matchmaking experience!
  • An extensive background check (cost is mine)…

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THE HARDEST THING THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER FACES WITH CLIENTS

You would think selecting people to meet or getting people to follow through on meetings might be the most difficult part of this business. Because of the Behavioral Agreement that every client signs these are not issues in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.

Being the ONLY Denver matchmaking service that shares pictures of all clients, it is like pulling teeth to get new clients to get me pictures. No matter how much direction I give them, examples I send them…they ignore those and send me what they want, if they send them in a timely manner at all.

Some new clients have up to 3 or 4 weeks before their interview to get me their pictures, but they inevitably wait until the very last minute, and as stated above, often don’t follow instructions. After 33+ years of watching clients view profiles and pictures, I certainly know what types of pictures turn them on and turn them off.

If you decide to make an investment both financially and emotionally to work with me, then the picture aspect is very important. You only do it once, for the most part, unless something substantial in your appearance changes and then you would have to update.

But one of the BEST aspects of Bon Jour aside from the extensive profiles you view are the pictures! Make it fun! Take a couple of hours with a friend and take LOTS of pictures, then send me the best ones for me to choose which I think will work the best for you. It’s that simple.

MATCHMAKING, COACHING, LISTENING AND LEARNING AT THIS DENVER SERVICE

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Hiring a matchmaking service is a lot like hiring a financial adviser to direct you in the stock market.  You invest your money hoping for a large return; you have patience because the market can go up and down and you are basically making an educated decision about this form of investment.  Likewise in a matchmaking service your investment is in the hopes that you will meet people who you’ve been searching for up to this point; you are directed by the matchmaker which candidates (like stocks) will give you the best return; it can take time to meet the most appropriate matches and they may be successful or not.  It’s an investment in the process.  Again, patience is key.  With my open-ended contract you have the best opportunity to meet the “right” person when they present themselves.

Bon Jour Matchmaking Service not only matches you with an abundance…

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ASK THESE QUESTIONS BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields's avatarBon Jour Matchmaking Service

Every week I receive calls from singles who have used or spoken to other local Denver matchmaking services. What shocks me every time is the few questions these people ask the other services. Maybe because I conduct at least a 1 hour preliminary phone consultation they think of more questions to ask me…I don’t know. But these are the types of questions you should ask when looking for a Denver matchmaker.

  1. Does the person who will be matchmaking me know ALL of the clients?

  2. How long have you been in business?

  3. How many marriages have you had?

  4. Where is the interview conducted? In a quiet, private place or at a coffee shop or hotel?

  5. Are you matching me with YOUR clientele or with other local matchmakers? Have you interviewed and met those clients if they are not yours?

  6. Have they interviewed and met with every client?

  7. What are the different…

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DATING ADVICE FROM A MAN

For women in the dating world.

You will never convince a man to love you.

Find a man who answers when you call and texts back within minutes rather than days.

Find a man that gives you clear cut answers and doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand.

Find a man that wants to make you a part of his life rather than a chapter in his book.

Find a man who doesn’t take years and years to figure out what he wants from you.

Find a man who respects, celebrates and encourages your individuality, your education, your spirituality, and your growth.

Remember It is never asking too much from a man to be considered a priority.

Find a man who is genuinely interested in you and pursues you on a daily basis.

Find a man who asks you to go to church with him.

Find a man that never let’s you go to sleep at night wondering if you still matter.

Watch how a man treats his mother. You can learn alot from how someone treats the person that brought them into this world.

Never chase a man because of his looks because one day those looks will eventually fade and what your left with is what’s inside so don’t be consumed by his physical traits.

Find a man who protects you and stands up for you even when you’re not around.

Find a man who values you and who would never put themselves in a position to lose you.

Find a man who wakes up everyday looking for new ways to love you.

Find a man that understands it’s not about giving you the world but making you feel like you’re the only one in it.

Take my advice and remember your time is precious. Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t realize you are too.

~ Cody Bret

I RECEIVED THIS A WHILE AGO FROM SOMEONE WHO VISITED MY MATCHMAKING WEBSITE

Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields's avatarBon Jour Matchmaking Service

Somehow I missed this when it was posted…

BM Jun 19, 2018

I used Caliber Match’s services about 2 years ago and it was absolutely the worst experience customer service wise that I have ever had, business or personal. Emily Hellman is the owner and I can say she flat out lied to me to get me to sign a contract, but once under contract I called her out asking when things aren’t going the way she explained in my consultation meeting and she started to ignore me and only give partial answers to my questions. Basically she held me to the terms of the contract even though she didn’t follow the contract herself. My attorney told me on one hand, her lies are the only reason I signed the contract to begin with (I agree, hence why I went to him), but on the other hand, the contract is…

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LOVE IS NOT A QUICK FIX

Michele "the Matchmaker" Fields's avatarBon Jour Matchmaking Service

I heard a story on the news yesterday about a way to fast track your love for someone.  I know we live in a society of quick fixes and immediate gratification but not all things should go that way.  This particular gimmick was pages of questions for 45 minutes and then staring at each other for FOUR minutes to create intimacy.

Is it really necessary to create intimacy on the first meeting or date?  The usual recommendation for a first meeting is not to get too serious about any subject.  It is a preliminary “date” to see if there is a reason to pursue.  That is more of a feeling than an inquisition!  Reading through this site you will see that Bon Jour Matchmaking’s philosophy is quite the opposite.

I also realize there are times when there is love at first sight that can be long lasting.  I’ve seen it…

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