HOW TO IMPRESS YOUR DENVER MATCHMAKER MICHELE

I start evaluating everything about you from your first contact with me.  If written I notice grammar, spelling, syntax and politeness.  If by phone, attitude, philosophy (i.e., it’s a numbers game how many clients do you have?), grammar and our communication styles with each other.  This is such a personal endeavor it is important that we communicate well with each other.  As I’ve said many times on this site, I turn down more people than I accept to represent based on a wide variety of factors.

I had a woman call me and leave a message.  So I returned the call promptly and didn’t hear back.  (I do not chase after clients like other Denver Matchmaking Services.  I want to see your level of interest, reliability and motivation)  Months later she called again leaving another message.  Again I returned her call promptly and again never heard from her.  This shows  me a number of things about her and none of them are good.  IF she calls again I probably will not work with her. My clients deserve people who are sincerely motivated and reliable and that’s what I try to give them.  She has already made a bad impression.

More than likely you will only meet with me face to face once, at your initial interview.  When you dress for the interview remember I am your representative, agent, promoter, confidant and coach.  I am your advocate, I’m on your side to facilitate the best result in your quest.  So just like a job interview you need to make a good impression at this one opportunity.  That means visually as well as personality and attitude.  The more you cooperate, collaborate and follow through in a timely manner, the better our relationship will be.

As with your pictures you need to put a lot of thought into what you wear to the interview.  Also if you are difficult, indecisive or combative throughout the interviewing process that does not make a good impression.  This is an interview like any other so put your best foot and attitude forward.  The nicer and more appealing you are the more I will be apt to recommend you over someone else and push someone towards you when they are on the fence!

MEDIA CENTER

Television, Radio, Newspapers and Magazines

 Television:

1. The Gordon Elliott Show, New York, New York, appeared as a relationship expert

2. In Person with Maureen O’Boyle, New York, New York, appeared as a dating expert

3. KWGN Channel 7 News, Denver, Colorado, appeared in two feature stories about matchmaking and relationships

4. KUSA Channel 9 News, Denver, Colorado, appeared in a feature story about Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.

5. WB2 Channel 2 News, Denver, Colorado, appeared as a relationship expert on several morning show productions.

  Radio:

1. Featured host on KTLK Radio

2. Featured guest twice on KTLK Radio as a professional matchmaker

3. Featured guest on KOA Radio twice as a relationship expert

4. Featured guest on KNUS Radio as a dating expert and matchmaker

5. Guest on The Reggie Rivers’ Show (KHOW Radio) as a matchmaker

6. Featured guest on KHOW Radio to talk about dating services

7. Featured guest on KMIX Radio morning show as a professional matchmaker

8. Co-hosted a live call-in talk show on KOA Radio for 3 years  2004-2007

9. Castle Rock Radio, special guest talking about what women want from men they’re dating  2012

10. Castle Rock Radio, expert talking about what to look out for when selecting dating/matchmaking services and information about Bon Jour Matchmaking Service  2012

11.  Featured guest on KRCN AM talking about matchmaking and Bon Jour Matchmaking Service   2013

12.  As a featured guest on Business for Breakfast morning show  2012

13.  CPR Colorado Public Radio, Host Ryan Warner of Colorado Matters; “For Coloradans, How Hard Is It To Find Love In the Fittest State?”  2014

14.  KOA Radio, Hosts Dave Logan and Susie Wargen.  Valentine’s Day interview about various options Denver singles have who are alone on this holiday.  2015

15.  KHOW Radio, Host Tom Martino Troubleshooter.  February 10, 2016

Newspapers and Magazines:

1. The Rocky Mountain News, Denver, CO, featured story in Lifestyle section
2. The Rocky Mountain News, Denver, CO, “Talk of the Town” by Norm Clark
3. The Rocky Mountain News, Denver, CO, “Rocky Talk” by Penny Parker
4. The Rocky Mountain News, Denver, CO, Business Section Feature story
5. The Denver Post, Denver, CO, Bill Husted’s column, headline story
6. The Denver Post, Denver, CO, feature story Lifestyle section by Bill Briggs
7. Colorado Biz Magazine, Denver, CO, feature story by Kathleen Bohland
8. The Cherry Creek Times, Denver, CO, feature story
9. Profile, Denver, CO, feature story by Paul Kashmann
10. The Denver Post, Denver, CO, story by Bill Briggs
11. The Denver Daily News, Denver, CO, weekly columnist for “Dear Michele” column answering relationship and dating questions
12. The Denver Daily News, Denver, CO, weekly columnist writing about non-profit fundraisers in Denver
13. The Denver Post, Denver, CO, Bill Husted’s Gossip Column for Valentine’s Day 2010
14. Denver Life Magazine, Denver, CO, “Hearts On High, Finding Love in Denver”, Professional Advice page, January 2011

15. Westword Magazine Online, Denver, CO, ” Rick Barber KOA ALS”, Michael Roberts, April, 2013

16. Westword Magazine Online, Denver, CO, “Ten Trade-Offs to Capture The Love You Seek” from a Top Denver Matchmaker, Michael Roberts, December, 2014

17.  Westword Magazine Online, https://www.westword.com/news/michele-fields-on-30-years-of-creating-perfect-couples-11072453, Denver, CO, “Matchmaking in Denver; Michele Fields on Creating Perfect Couples, Michael Roberts, January 18, 2019

18. Shoutout Colorado, Meet Michele “the Matchmaker” Fields | Veteran, Old Fashioned Matchmaker/Coach – SHOUTOUT COLORADO

Staff writer for Colorado Golf Magazine

Weekly columnist for The Denver Daily News

Radio Talk Show Co-host with Rick Barber on KOA Radio

WHY YOU MAY NOT BE THE RIGHT CLIENT FOR THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER

Singles hire a matchmaker because they are having trouble of some kind in their interactions with dating.  Yes, it is to find the right person who has as yet been elusive, but there may be many things you yourself are doing that derail, curtail or just plain prevent successful long term relationships.

One glaring example is you are difficult or impossible to connect with.  Whether it be by phone or setting up meetings or dates.  If I have trouble getting you on the phone that alerts me that my clients may also have difficulty that may cause them to get frustrated and just move on.  If that’s how I feel you can be sure that’s how they will feel.  If I find this the case before you even become a client (which happened this morning) I will suggest that you contact another Denver matchmaking service.  My clients expect and deserve reliable people to meet for potential relationships.

If I find that you do not follow directions well even though I repeat them over and over it will discourage me from working with you as there are contracts stating timing that you have to adhere to and other things that, as a client, you need to follow through on as there is usually someone waiting for an answer (someone meaning a prospective match or me).

Whether you are in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service as a client or out in the world dating, look at the obstacles you are putting in the way of smoothly getting to know someone and cultivating a potential relationship.  Actions that may be discouraging, frustrating or just plain turning good potential mates off.  THAT is what I help with, that is the coaching in Bon Jour Matchmaking that is so invaluable!

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HOW TO BE A REALISTIC DENVER MATCHMAKING CLIENT

When hiring a Denver Matchmaker you share the responsibility with the Matchmaker to work together, put your best foot forward, have an amicable relationship with that Matchmaker and be realistic in your expectations.

If you join a Denver matchmaking service it is their responsibility to show your profile to the most appropriate candidates. Not to waste your time setting you up with prospects that do not fit your preferences. It is your responsibility to be realistic with your criteria and realize that whenever you are shown a profile you have the right to turn it down. Conversely when your profile is shown to a prospect they have every right to turn you down.  Remember that although new clients come in every week they may not fit your preferences, be the opposite sex or select to meet you.  So the key is patience…sometimes there is a match right away and sometimes it can take time until the right person enters the service.  Try not to get discouraged if it takes time as it is better to be set up with a few great matches than tons of people who don’t fit your preferences!

The job of the Matchmaker is to go over profiles with each client and be sure there are no misunderstandings in the information set forth, also that neither party overly analyzes this information or reads into it. Using a Matchmaker will help you answer questions you’ve never even thought of.  A Matchmaker will help you focus in on what’s important, even if it may seem superficial.

Additionally coaching is an important component of matchmaking.  Many good potential relationships get derailed during the first month or two due to lack of communication as well as miscommunication.  I am there to convey and correct these issues as well as if there is something you are doing consistently to sabotage relationships I will point that out to you so that you may address the issue.  The last two marriages in Bon Jour Matchmaking Service would never have happened had I not gotten in the middle in the first couple of months and straightened out a lack of communication in both instances!

As THE Matchmaker at Bon Jour Matchmaking Service in Denver I offer the most reasonable investment to new clients in the Front Range.  You are a client until you find your match with no additional fees than the one-time investment fee and per introduction fee of $35.  That’s it, call to discuss your personal situation with me at 303-756-8106 so that I may quote you your personal investment fee.

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YOUR PICTURES FOR BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

New Picture Policy

Traditionally Bon Jour has taken pictures at the time of the interview at no charge to the client.  I feel that the client is more relaxed in their own environment taking their time and having a friend take lots of shots, then sending me the best ones.  That’s what often happens anyway so I am starting a new picture policy as of this date 3/18/13.

One of the biggest benefits to clients of Bon Jour Matchmaking is the sharing of photos.  If you select to work with Bon Jour than I will guide you as to which pictures work best and which will not based on my one-on-one experience with each client and their reactions to the pictures.  For the best results as a client following my advice and direction about your pictures will only benefit you…So if you decide to work with me it is because I am so hands on in every aspect of your experience.

Because you are making both a financial investment as well as an emotional investment don’t be lazy with your pictures.  Don’t just send me fuzzy, distant or pictures with lots of other people in them.  Take the time to have someone take new, current photos that represent you as you are now.  They should be similar to the ones below.  They are very important when potential matches view your profile so make an effort to do them right.

When you schedule an appointment for an interview to become a client you will be required to send me a minimum of SIX current photos (head shots and full length shots) prior to the interview.  These should not be professional photos but should be only snapshots.  But they should be photos that you approve of being shared with prospective matches.  They should be clear photos of your face and figure/body so that people viewing them can easily see an attraction.  Following are examples:

They don’t need to be dressy.  The point is that they are clear pictures of you…

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To mitigate the over-analyzing of their photos from certain clients who never like their pictures, I am implementing this new policy.  This is one of the reasons most local services do not share photos of their clients.  I feel, however, that to decide whether you have an interest in someone you need all the information possible and will always share photos along with extensive questionnaires.

THE BEST ASPECTS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Open-ended contract…you are a client until you reach your goal;

One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

35 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;

Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;

 Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THIS DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Hopefully by this time, the 33rd anniversary of this Denver matchmaking service, as well as the 11th year for this website, most everything you should want to know has been answered somewhere on here. Perhaps even multiple times. I’ve tried to keep things direct and concise as I, myself, am not a big reader and appreciate when a writer gets to the point.  Please view my Mission Statement.

The first thing you should read is the HOME PAGE for an overview. Just click on the blue print to go to that Page or Post.  If you are seriously interested in working with a matchmaker you should also read HOW TO IMPRESS YOUR DENVER MATCHMAKER.

Another Page you may want to read is WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE INTERVIEW so there won’t be any surprises and you can view my home office. Yes, I have a private office in which I keep all my client profiles and where you can be candid and open when we meet, unlike services who interview you in public forums.

The next Page you should view is POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE. That Page has an abundance of Posts for you to access with both general information about dating/matchmaking services as well as advice in a variety of areas, i.e., selecting services, matchmaking service fees, what turns men off, how to be a collaborative Bon Jour Matchmaking client, etc. Of course you do not have to read every Post listed on that Page, just the ones that interest you the most.

CLIENTS’ TESTIMONIALS is a Page you should read as those reviews of Bon Jour Matchmaking go all the way back to 1989 up to 2021. I could not include all Testimonials I’ve received over the 33 years, however those should give you an idea of how clients feel about the structure and working with me.

For personal background information on me you should view the Page entitled ABOUT THIS PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKING EXPERT. This will give you info on my volunteer work in the community, how old I was when starting the service, etc.

There are approximately 204 Posts on Michele’s Blog all of which give you an insight into the clientele, my work ethic, the structure of the service and more. Also the Pages on the right hand navigation will take you to important information. Once you feel you understand the service, for the most part, and have questions, please phone me to chat. Especially phone me if you do not understand my philosophy or have questions about things you have read or perhaps missed reading. For my hours you may go to  and HOURS, LOCATIONS AND FEES for specifics.

I hope this Post/Page helps you navigate the site more easily and we can chat very soon! 303-756-8106

THE BEST ASPECTS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;

One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

33 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking success;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;

YOU decide who you want to meet based on the above info;

Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;

 Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

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THINK LONG TERM, BE REALISTIC and BE HUMAN WHEN DATING

Some advice from the oldest Denver matchmaker approaching 33 years of Denver matchmaking success…

I was in contact a few years ago with a guy I dated in my twenties.  He’s now in his sixties.  One of the things that got on my nerves when we dated was that he worked out obsessively every day, 7 days a week and anything else was put on the back burner.

Well, it turns out he looked healthy and great on the outside but lots was going on inside that he could not control or be aware of.  Something he specifically told me this morning was that he never thought he would date women over 50 because of his perception of them and because he felt that he had so much to offer.  He’s always been a handsome, wealthy and a very sweet guy!  Today he said he’d be lucky to have someone in their 50’s or 60’s consider him!  So of course you ask why?

A year ago he had a severe stroke which has disabled him in certain ways that he is fighting back and working through.  His perception of himself, women and the world has changed dramatically.  He has always been the handsome, sexy, virile man who didn’t look his age.  I haven’t seen him but his description of himself is quite different now.

Hey, “shit happens”…this is life.  He commented that he would date Chrisite Brinkley.  I said what if you did and SHE had the stroke, gained weight, looked different and needed help?  That could happen…would you still be there?  (I don’t remember his answer, don’t think he responded…)

Everyone who comes in here whether male or female seems to want their idea of “perfection”.  Perfection doesn’t last forever.  There are car accidents, strokes, ALS, ED, etc., etc.  People don’t remain the same through their whole lives.  The test is whether you or they will still be there when times aren’t “perfect” and they or YOU aren’t “perfect”. The person you SHOULD be searching for is one with compassion, loyalty, humanity and realism.

Of course there has to be an attraction in many areas, but that physical attraction becomes less and less important as you age because some of the most beautiful people do not age well, i.e., Jessica Lange, Brigitte Bardot, Mickey Rourke, Val Kilmer, Kathleen Turner, Kelly LeBrock, Keith Richards, Jack Nicholson, Brigette Neilsen, Steven Seagal, Janice Dickinson, Nick Nolte, etc.  Just because someone looks great NOW doesn’t mean they always will.  AND just because you look great on the outside doesn’t mean you are healthy on the inside, like my friend.

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On the other hand, there are people who were average looking when they were younger who look better with age, i.e., Diane Keaton, Katie Couric, Barbra Striesand, Julianne Moore, Emma Thompson, Liam Neeson, Tom Hanks, etc.  The question isn’t are they good looking, the more important question at certain ages is how well are they aging.

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So when choosing a partner look long term, be realistic and be human…and remember that “shit happens” even to YOU, so choose someone who will be there if and when it does!

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