EVERYTHING YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT THIS DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Hopefully by this time, the 33rd anniversary of this Denver matchmaking service, as well as the 11th year for this website, most everything you should want to know has been answered somewhere on here. Perhaps even multiple times. I’ve tried to keep things direct and concise as I, myself, am not a big reader and appreciate when a writer gets to the point.  Please view my Mission Statement.

The first thing you should read is the HOME PAGE for an overview. Just click on the blue print to go to that Page or Post.  If you are seriously interested in working with a matchmaker you should also read HOW TO IMPRESS YOUR DENVER MATCHMAKER.

Another Page you may want to read is WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE INTERVIEW so there won’t be any surprises and you can view my home office. Yes, I have a private office in which I keep all my client profiles and where you can be candid and open when we meet, unlike services who interview you in public forums.

The next Page you should view is POSTS TO READ BEFORE JOINING ANY DENVER MATCHMAKING SERVICE. That Page has an abundance of Posts for you to access with both general information about dating/matchmaking services as well as advice in a variety of areas, i.e., selecting services, matchmaking service fees, what turns men off, how to be a collaborative Bon Jour Matchmaking client, etc. Of course you do not have to read every Post listed on that Page, just the ones that interest you the most.

CLIENTS’ TESTIMONIALS is a Page you should read as those reviews of Bon Jour Matchmaking go all the way back to 1989 up to 2021. I could not include all Testimonials I’ve received over the 33 years, however those should give you an idea of how clients feel about the structure and working with me.

For personal background information on me you should view the Page entitled ABOUT THIS PROFESSIONAL DENVER MATCHMAKING EXPERT. This will give you info on my volunteer work in the community, how old I was when starting the service, etc.

There are approximately 204 Posts on Michele’s Blog all of which give you an insight into the clientele, my work ethic, the structure of the service and more. Also the Pages on the right hand navigation will take you to important information. Once you feel you understand the service, for the most part, and have questions, please phone me to chat. Especially phone me if you do not understand my philosophy or have questions about things you have read or perhaps missed reading. For my hours you may go to  and HOURS, LOCATIONS AND FEES for specifics.

I hope this Post/Page helps you navigate the site more easily and we can chat very soon! 303-756-8106

THE BEST ASPECTS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;

One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;

You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;

33 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking success;

300+ marriages;

Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;

Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;

Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;

YOU decide who you want to meet based on the above info;

Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;

Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;

VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;

 Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.

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THINK LONG TERM, BE REALISTIC and BE HUMAN WHEN DATING

Some advice from the oldest Denver matchmaker approaching 33 years of Denver matchmaking success…

I was in contact a few years ago with a guy I dated in my twenties.  He’s now in his sixties.  One of the things that got on my nerves when we dated was that he worked out obsessively every day, 7 days a week and anything else was put on the back burner.

Well, it turns out he looked healthy and great on the outside but lots was going on inside that he could not control or be aware of.  Something he specifically told me this morning was that he never thought he would date women over 50 because of his perception of them and because he felt that he had so much to offer.  He’s always been a handsome, wealthy and a very sweet guy!  Today he said he’d be lucky to have someone in their 50’s or 60’s consider him!  So of course you ask why?

A year ago he had a severe stroke which has disabled him in certain ways that he is fighting back and working through.  His perception of himself, women and the world has changed dramatically.  He has always been the handsome, sexy, virile man who didn’t look his age.  I haven’t seen him but his description of himself is quite different now.

Hey, “shit happens”…this is life.  He commented that he would date Chrisite Brinkley.  I said what if you did and SHE had the stroke, gained weight, looked different and needed help?  That could happen…would you still be there?  (I don’t remember his answer, don’t think he responded…)

Everyone who comes in here whether male or female seems to want their idea of “perfection”.  Perfection doesn’t last forever.  There are car accidents, strokes, ALS, ED, etc., etc.  People don’t remain the same through their whole lives.  The test is whether you or they will still be there when times aren’t “perfect” and they or YOU aren’t “perfect”. The person you SHOULD be searching for is one with compassion, loyalty, humanity and realism.

Of course there has to be an attraction in many areas, but that physical attraction becomes less and less important as you age because some of the most beautiful people do not age well, i.e., Jessica Lange, Brigitte Bardot, Mickey Rourke, Val Kilmer, Kathleen Turner, Kelly LeBrock, Keith Richards, Jack Nicholson, Brigette Neilsen, Steven Seagal, Janice Dickinson, Nick Nolte, etc.  Just because someone looks great NOW doesn’t mean they always will.  AND just because you look great on the outside doesn’t mean you are healthy on the inside, like my friend.

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On the other hand, there are people who were average looking when they were younger who look better with age, i.e., Diane Keaton, Katie Couric, Barbra Striesand, Julianne Moore, Emma Thompson, Liam Neeson, Tom Hanks, etc.  The question isn’t are they good looking, the more important question at certain ages is how well are they aging.

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So when choosing a partner look long term, be realistic and be human…and remember that “shit happens” even to YOU, so choose someone who will be there if and when it does!

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PAY ATTENTION DENVER SINGLES

The first photo is of actor Pierce Brosnan and his wife twenty years ago, at the start of their marriage. The second photo is them today. When people pointed out to him that she had put on weight he simply replied: ′She is in my eyes the most beautiful woman in the world, she raised my 5 children with love. In the past, I already loved her for her personality and not just for her beauty. Now I love her even more. I am very proud of her, and I always try to be worthy of her love. This is what it is to marry a man who loves you as you are. That is what I wish for you at Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, a Denver matchmaking service for 35 years.

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WHY CLIENTS SAY THEY CHOSE BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

After speaking with Michele I felt confident that she was skilled at her profession. Dr. D

She seemed more sincere. Not a money mill! Brad K.

The personal attention. With It’s Just Lunch I felt as if they didn’t even look at my profile. Daren, Esq.

The reviews and Michele’s interaction with the clients. Patrick A.

I think Michele works hard to find someone who is a good fit. Dave A.

I was impressed with the length of time that Michele has spent in business in the Denver area-it’s clear that this is her calling. I also thought that the open-ended contract was unique and shows that she’s really committed to finding the right match for people, not just limiting your matches to who is immediately available. Taylor H.

I was impressed by Michele’s personalized and localized approach. I appreciate that she meets with each and every one of her clients. Kate D., Phd

I want to find someone to share my life with and appreciate the hands on, personal approach. Julie C.

Because it feels very personalized and isn’t a sales pitch to take your money. Nicole B.

TIPS TO HELP YOU CORRECT INEFFECTIVE DATING PATTERNS FROM THIS DENVER MATCHMAKER

Posted by Michele “the Matchmaker” Fields

I’ve received feedback about my Blog that people love my anecdotal stories as they help clarify my points.  So to illuminate this point…I have found with some of my clients that they have a regular routine of some kind that they don’t change when they come in here and meet potential mates.  Whether it be skiing every weekend in the winter, boating every weekend in the summer, going to their place in the mountains every weekend or whatever, once you have decided to work with a professional Matchmaker and meet good potential mates you HAVE to be flexible with your schedule.  You can do that routine when you are single, or even in a relationship but you HAVE to make the time to nurture a potential relationship and show flexibility.

I used to have a very attractive female client who owned several places in the mountains and two dogs.  On Thursday she would go to the mountains (with her dogs) until Sunday.  She would NEVER change her schedule to accommodate someone she was dating.  She took her dogs everywhere, including to our interview and her first meetings with matches.  I’m a real animal person and don’t like animals locked up in a car for two hours and I’m sure that made her dates feel uncomfortable.  But even more I received feedback from every guy she met that she wouldn’t fit time in her weekend schedule to get together.  So they moved on.

Someone who does that looks very selfish, very inflexible and doesn’t appear to have a desire to nurture a relationship.  All in all she appeared as a poor partner and I was never able to seal the deal for her.  I spoke with her about the feedback numerous times and she claimed she would change but never did…and BTW she’s still single, surprise.  I am no longer working with her as I cannot disappoint my male clients and waste their time when she won’t comply.

Recently I’ve had another beautiful female client join my service.  Despite many conversations with her during and after her interview, she has never told me that she goes to the mountains every weekend from Friday to Sunday.  I learned about this from feedback of her matches.  They asked her for another date and she is gone every weekend so they became frustrated and moved on.  The feedback from clients is invaluable.

I have not spoken with her about it yet as she is in the mountains and has no phone or internet service there…I am not only concerned about this pattern but that she hid it from me even though we’ve spoken so many times.  I suspect she thought if she told me I would not work with her because deep down she has to know that this may undermine any success.  But I always find out, if not directly from the client, then from feedback from their matches.  When I receive negative feedback from 2 people I address that with the person so they can correct that behavior.

If a client is using it to turn off the other person because they aren’t interested but don’t know how to tell them, BAD IDEA.  Just merely say how nice they are and attractive (if they are) but the chemistry just isn’t there.  No one can argue with that!  But don’t say things to turn them off as your rejection.  “Man up” and be honest, trust me, they appreciate that.

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CELEBRATING MORE THAN 30 YEARS
OF DENVER MATCHMAKING SUCCESS

Matchmaking is so much more than just throwing people together and letting them sink or swim.  Many people put up obstacles that diminish their chances of a relationship progressing.  My expertise is in identifying those habits and zeroing in on things that, in the scheme of a lifelong relationship, just are not important.  That is my goal for you… a lifetime relationship!

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OMG LOOK WHAT DENVER MATCHMAKERS ARE CHARGING!

This information was taken directly from the VIDA Select website in 2020:

THE DENVER DATING COMPANY:https://kdvr.com/news/local/denver-singles-site-had-barely-any-women-on-it-lawsuit-claims/embed/#?secret=pVFajLIcOE

Just received a call from a woman who went in to do a consultation with them. She expressed that they were disorganized and lied about a number of things such as length of time in business stating they’ve been in business 22 years. So I went on the BBB site and they have an F rating and have only been in business ONE YEAR! Also on the BBB they listed the owner as Mrs. Owner so they won’t disclose who owns and operates that service. I’m surprised the BBB accepted that! DO NOT GIVE THIS COMPANY YOUR SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER (OR ANY COMPANY). THEY DO NOT NEED IT TO DO A BACKGROUND CHECK!!!

KRIS KENNY CONNECTIONS:

Around $3,500 for 6 months, $8,400 for 12 months, and a “VIP” 1-year membership starts at $15,000. Clients typically get a minimum of 1 match per month.

KELLEHER INTERNATIONAL:

Starts around $25,000 and can go higher than $150,000. Cost depends on the number of cities you’d like matchmakers to include in the search, as well as a few other factors. No matter which membership package you choose, you’ll get 13 months worth of search time, and a full year’s worth of pause time.

LUMA:

Having a matchmaker scout for highly compatible singles requires a premium membership, which starts around $5,000. Membership prices can top out north of $50,000, depending on the level of service you’d like.

CALIBER MATCH:

Being listed in the pool of Denver singles is free, but it’s a passive membership – you’ll only be matched when you fit someone else’s criteria. If you want a matchmaker to look for your ideal partner, you’ll need to pay for a Premier membership.

Paid memberships start around $8,500 for 6 months, and $15,000 for 12 months of matchmaking services.

VIDA SELECT:

Clients pay for matchmaking services by the month, rather than committing to a long-term contract. Monthly packages run between $495 and $1,695.

Compiled from VIDA Select.

BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE: NOT LISTED ON VIDA

ONE-TIME investment fee ranging from $4500-$5500 with an open-ended contract for all clients. Per introduction fee of $35 on both sides of the introduction. What am I paying for at Bon Jour? 35 years of Denver matchmaking success with more than 300 marriages! There will be a fee increase starting January 1, 2024.

NOT LISTED ON VIDA: THE SOCIAL: MODERN MATCHMAKING:

There’s a new service in town who runs the same way as all the other services. No profiles, no pictures, no experience and a very young owner charging $10,000 to $12,000 for a 1 year contract according to a recent new client of mine! This is also another local service getting YOUR matches from other matchmakers without photos, profiles or personal interviews or your knowledge due to a lack of clientele. How does the dating part work? In a review of this service someone wrote: she sends a text to both of us saying meet at this location at this time. We don’t get pictures before the date or any information.

In addition, my new client shared that the guy working for this owner hit on her during what was suppose to be her zoom interview. She met him for lunch and now he’s constantly texting and calling her to go out again. As well as being inappropriate, it totally turned her off of the whole company.

Additionally, this woman said that most of the above local companies that she contacted quoted around $12,000 for a one year contract!

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IS THIS YOU? THEN YOU ARE A GOOD PROSPECT FOR BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

I do not decide exclusively upon my own criteria whether we should work together.  Primarily that has been decided by my current clients who have been very specific as to their preferences and criteria…just like you would be if you were a client.  Bon Jour is the ONLY Denver matchmaking service that does not have ANY reviews stating the client was set up with people who did not fit their specified criteria.  So, don’t take it personally and don’t blame the messenger (me) if I feel that we shouldn’t work together.  Rather be grateful that I told you the truth and did not scam you out of your money!

Just to try and make things simpler, following is a list of traits that will tell you if you and Bon Jour Matchmaking Service are a good match which include both my perimeters and my clients’ criteria:

  1. You have read to some extent through this website;
  2. You understand the philosophy of Bon Jour as a matchmaking service NOT a dating service;
  3. You perceive my clients as a clientele NOT a database;
  4. Female clients prefer men who are 5’7″ or taller;
  5. Male clients prefer women who are no more than a size 10;
  6. My female clients are well educated and prefer men who are equally educated;
  7. None of my clients will date smokers;
  8. None of my clients will consider someone who is separated;
  9. None of my clients will consider someone with sleeve or full body tattoos;
  10. You are NOT obsessed with how many people I have relating to you because once I hear your preferences that number will surely drop;
  11. You are looking to meet age appropriate matches NOT people much younger who don’t want to meet people in your age range;
  12. You are a woman between 27 and 60; You are a man between 30 and 65;
  13. You understand that meeting a bunch of people who do not fit your preferences and criteria is not what I do here.  (For example: packages of dates for a finite period of time which is what other local services do);
  14. You understand that you are only matched with people both who fit your preferences and you fit theirs. YOU make the final decision on who you meet;
  15. You are willing to listen to and perhaps follow my coaching;
  16. You may meet as many people as you feel are an appropriate match, however the goal is to be discerning enough that you meet the “right” one on your first or second match…regardless of how long that takes to happen;
  17. Your goal is to meet the RIGHT person NOT a bunch of the wrong people and that may take time;
  18. You understand that the perfect person may not be on file the exact day you interview;
  19. You understand that this is not a race.  We are looking for the “right” person and that may take time thus the open-ended contract.  You are in the service until you reach your goal.

If you feel that this describes you then call me for your FREE phone consultation!  No appointment necessary for that.  If you genuinely feel this is a numbers game, this is NOT the right service for you.  I am a Matchmaker with all that implies!