Let’s start with the men:

Men are very visual and want a woman who is fit and healthy, has an interesting style and he will be proud to introduce to friends, family and co-workers.  Do you have any idea how hard it is to find men in Denver who dress well????  They are few and far between.  The best way to make a great first impression on a woman is to give your attire as much thought as women do before meeting you.  Especially in Denver where everyone is overly casual.  There is casual stylish and neat and there is casual sloppy.   Women are just as visual as men.  If you have facial hair make sure it is cropped so if you are inspired to go in for the kiss it doesn’t scratch her and make her back up.  Wear deodorant and/or cologne, preferably both but at least one of…

In my opinion thenumber 1 myth is…the more expensive a service is the more successful it is and the higher quality their clients are. If you look at reviews of the most expensive services around the country as well as Denver matchmaking services, you will see many, many negative reviews. So you should not judge a service by what they charge you. Many are just greedy and want to make lots of money for doing nothing.

1. If a service says they have lots of clients for me should I trust that? MYTH, NO, NO, NO. A real matchmaking service has no idea how many clients fit for you until they interview you thoroughly. To throw out arbitrary numbers over the phone is unprofessional and merely a sales tactic.
2. If a service has been covered by the media that means it is a good service and you can…

Singles hire a matchmaker because they are having trouble of some kind in their interactions with dating.  Yes, it is to find the right person who has as yet been elusive, but there may be many things you yourself are doing that derail, curtail or just plain prevent successful long term relationships.

One glaring example is you are difficult or impossible to connect with. Whether it be by phone or setting up meetings or dates. If I have trouble getting you on the phone that alerts me that my clients may also have difficulty that may cause them to get frustrated and just move on. If that’s how I feel you can be sure that’s how they will feel. If I find this the case before you even become a client (which happened this morning) I will suggest that you contact another Denver matchmaking service. My clients expect and deserve…

I received a call from a 62 year old doctor who is interested in dating women in their thirties and having children. He has never been married or had children. So now, at the age of 62 that’s his agenda. My women are ONLY interested in meeting men who are age appropriate, especially to have children with. DECLINED…

I received a call from a 36 year old man who is divorced, no children. His primary focus was how many women he would meet and how quickly. He told me that he met 100 women in a 2 year period through internet dating services and dating apps. He also did not want children or to date someone with children and in the age range he specified my women either have them or want them.

I am a matchmaker with all that implies. I do not just throw people at each other…

I’d say first keep in mind how long the company has been in business. If it’s 5 years or less there shouldn’t be lots of negative reviews. If it’s 20+ or 30+ years you have to realize how many people they have worked with and even just by percentages there are going to be people who are unhappy for whatever reason.

Also Yelp, in particular, hides many, many, many 5 star reviews if you don’t buy their services…

Consider the source (the reviewer) when reading those negative reviews. Are they vicious, taking shots at things that have nothing to do with service but just to be petty? Does their review sound like it came from someone who is immature based on what they focus on and/or how it’s written?

Did the company respond to the review? Be sure to read that and see which version makes more sense. Businesses like…

When you read reviews of other Denver matchmaking services, they often state that they contacted the service multiple times after joining with no response. You will NEVER see that kind of review about Bon Jour Matchmaking Service or me!

Conversely, I expect all of my clients to respond in a timely manner in that I am usually contacting them for someone who is showing interest. This is not the internet dating sites or dating apps. You cannot become a client of Bon Jour and ghost me or my clients. Thus, every client signs a Behavioral contract stating the above. I consider this both good manners and responsibility.

To insure that people I work with are responsive, I email with them before they become a client asking questions and sending information. If they do not respond in a timely manner, or at all, I will cancel their appointment.

Hiring any professional…

I am often contacted by people calling themselves matchmakers, usually from outside of Colorado, wanting me to set up THEIR clients with my clients.  I don’t know their clients, haven’t met or interviewed their client, don’t know the quality of their clients and don’t know them or their service.

SOME GENERAL ADVICE:  Do not join a service who does not SHOW you profiles WITH pictures and that THEY decide who you are going to meet rather than you deciding.  It should be a collaboration, not a dictatorship.  Or that sells you packages of dates.  I.e., 3 month contract for 3 matches.  THAT IS NOT MATCHMAKING!

MY clients hire me because I vett all clients and have for 34 years!  I don’t drag someone off the street or call other “matchmakers” to solicit people for them to meet knowing nothing about that person or that company.  Not having met and…

1. Open-ended contract…you are a client until…until you reach your goal;
2. One Matchmaker who knows ALL of her clients;
3. You are ONLY introduced to my clients who I’ve met personally, interviewed and who have had a background check;
4. 33 years of experience in Colorado matchmaking;
5. 300+ marriages;
6. Feedback both positive and negative to assist you;
7. Coaching to correct unproductive and unsuccessful dating patterns;
8. Extensive profiles with current photos for clients to view;
9. Collaborative effort between client and Matchmaker;
10. Clients decide who they are interested in meeting after I select appropriate profiles that fit on both sides;
11. VERY reasonable investment fee based on each individual client’s situation;
12.  Make your investment fee back if you get married, move or leave Bon Jour.

These are just the highlights.  Please read through this web site to gain more in-depth information.