MILLIONAIRE MATCHMAKER, PATTI STANGER’S RIDICULOUS FEES

Her reviews follow the fees.  Check this out:

Silver $35K Per Year+Expenses

  • One-time intimate mixer experience
  • Up to 10 men/women
  • Dinner setting at local restaurant
  • Your matchmaker included to guide mini-dates
  • Food and beverage not included

Bronze $45K Per Year

  • 1 hour relationship counseling session with the relationship counselor in your area
  • 2 month freeze (you can put your membership on hold up to 2 months if you meet a match through us or outside the service
  • 10 commandments of dating and step to success

Silver $65K Per Year

  • Bronze package features
  • 1 hour date coaching session with the dating coach in your area
  • 1 hour image consulting session with the image consultant in your area
  • 1 hour hypnotherapy session with the hypnotherapist in your area

GoldPatti Exclusive $85K Per Year

  • Silver package features
  • Patti Stanger will personally match you to the love of your life

Platinum $100K+ Per Year

  • Gold package features
  • This package will be fully customized to your needs including international searches and more.
  • Basic Mixer can be added at additional expense (see Package Add-Ons below)

Package Add-Ons

Patti Stanger Add-On

To receive Patti Stanger as your personal matchmaker (along with an assistant matchmaker) there is an additional fee of a minimum of $35,000 on top of a Millionaire Matchmaker Membership Package. Patti limits her personal matchmaking to an average of 10 private members based on schedule, availability and space per year.

NOTE: A ‘Personal Matchmaking’ membership (such as this one) is defined by said matchmaker overseeing your matchmaking. An assistant matchmaker or recruiter may still contact you and be your point person.
Payment Information

We accept the following types of payments:

  • Checks
  • Wire-transfer
  • No Credit Cards

Millionaire’s Club has a no refund policy. Deposits are non refundable. All payments must be made in full for a member to start their membership or put any female club members on hold. All memberships are non-transferable.

In my opinion, anyone who chooses to pay these types of ridiculous fees deserves what they get…and if you read her reviews first, it’s not good.  Here’s what the Huffington Post had to say:

“Over the past four seasons, viewers have watched “Millionaire Matchmaker,” Patti Stanger attempt to find love for her wealthy clients. But behind the cameras and Stanger’s quippy one-liners, is the dating club that sometimes seems to be more about the money than the love, really a sham?

“Patti barely does any of the matching if any at all,” a young professional who looked for love via Stanger’s service tells me. “She passes it off to Destin, Rachel and other account executives. The girl who set me up, that was an account executive, was fired… and she worked for Patti but never even met her once in person!”

However, it’s not just the ladies who never get to see the reality star in person. The namesake “Millionaire” gentlemen, who pay up to $40,000 a year to meet women, hardly see Stanger either.

“The guy I met with, and ended up dating until it got bad, only spoke to someone on the phone,” another insider tells me. “He was never even interviewed in person. He just sent them photos of himself and says he definitely got the hard sell from them. They never even questioned his millionaire status. Her ‘Millionaires Club’ is totally bogus. As long as you can pay the steep fees you are good to go. They will set you up with as many girls as you want for that price.”  (Sound like any local Denver “matchmaker” VIP club you know???)

“While taping a scripted show with Stanger a few weeks ago in Los Angeles, the tight-lipped matchmaker was far more interested in getting me to spill the beans on Jennifer Lopez’s breakup than answering any of my questions about her business!”

Another MUST READ about Patti Stanger is:

http://venusinheels.wordpress.com/2011/01/06/the-lost-art-of-matchmaking-and-why-patti-stanger-is-a-fraud/

WHAT TYPES OF PEOPLE ARE NOT RIGHT FOR BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

To perhaps make things a bit simpler for singles who view this website and have an interest in Bon Jour Matchmaking, but in all honesty just don’t jive with this 34 year established clientele, here are some situations and/or characteristics that MAY preclude you:

  1. An overabundance of piercings;
  2. If when we have the FREE phone consultation you argue with me about the service structure, pictures or anything else, that is a very bad sign to me and shows we are not a match;
  3. Men shorter than 5’7″;
  4. If you are married or separated;
  5. Women wearing a size 12 or higher;
  6. Bald men do not do as well in general BUT that depends…if that is the only thing on this list that doesn’t fit it is worth calling;
  7. Men with “shaved” heads do better than bald men;
  8. If your education ends at high school that will be an issue;
  9. Smokers;
  10. Divorced 6 months or less;
  11. Divorced 3 times or more;
  12. Unreliable;
  13. Misrepresenting yourself in any way;
  14. If you do not have a bank account;  (I am mostly paid by check)
  15. Earning less than $70,000 a year;
  16. Men looking to meet women who are 14+ years younger than themselves;
  17. Men with an Associates Degree only that do not own a thriving business;
  18. Anyone who expects the service to work the day they join.  It may but it may not…UNREALISTIC;
  19. Singles with sleeve or full body tattoos will not be successful in Bon Jour.

There are many Posts on this site that describe what types of background and qualities make up the clientele in my service but this is the first that specifically lists what types of situations will not be as successful.  This list is NOT a judgment of anyone, it merely describes some conditions that are the least favorable to singles considering Bon Jour Matchmaking.

I was asked if there are any services in Denver who work with “blue collar” individuals and as far as I know local Denver matchmakers’ fees are too high for those folks.  The reason so many Colorado matchmaking services are made up more of “white collar professionals” is because they are the ones with enough disposable income to pay their high fees.  At least that’s my best guess…

MET SOMEONE NEW? BELIEVE THEM WHEN THEY TELL YOU EXACTLY WHO THEY ARE…

I recently had a new female client, age 26, also a small business owner join my service.  She was outgoing, very adorable, sent in all information asked for prior to the initial interview and seemed like a great new client.  I was wondering why she is single…mystery solved!

During this initial interview she mentioned several times that she was flaky and unreliable.  I heard her say that and replied that I didn’t find her to be that at all.  Did she mean in the past?  No, she replied, she still is.  Again, I stated that was not the impression I was getting at all.  She selected a few men she would like to meet and we were on our way.

The last thing I ask a new client to do after the initial interview is write a Narrative.  I spend a good 30 minutes going over what should be in it and shouldn’t, how long it should be and show them tons of examples of other clients’ Narratives explaining what is wrong or right about them.

I contacted her with no response.  Contacted her again and she said she was sick.  Waited a week and contacted her again both to see how she was feeling and get the Narrative.  Again no response.  I both called and wrote again with no response.  Finally I called again because while all of this was going on I had already contacted her first choice to meet and he was interested and had sent in his introduction fee of $35.  So he was waiting to hear something and have her both send in her fee and write her Narrative which I shared with her in the emails she didn’t respond to.  Again she said she was still sick.

I waited another week and tried contacting her as I had not received the Narrative or the introduction fee.  No response again.  So I blocked my phone number and called her, suspicious that if she knew who it was she wouldn’t answer.  I was right, she answered this time.  She told me that she had put the check in the mail that day and would work on the Narrative.  She also stated that she didn’t really want to meet anyone at the end of the year.  First time I heard that…she just joined the service and selected people.  So was she really sick?  Did she ever really put anything in the mail that day?  I highly doubt it…

The more I thought about it the more apprehensive I became to set my male client up with her (he was brand new too) as she was being flaky and unreliable.  I cannot in good faith set someone up with a person acting in this manner.  So I decided to curtail our relationship.  THEN, as I knew she would (I’ve been doing this for 25 years) she answered promptly saying she had put a check in the mail that morning for her introduction fee.  I suspected it wasn’t true.  I wrote back that I would void the check and send it back to her.  She definitely left me with the impression I would be receiving it.  That evening sending me an email saying she mailed CASH in a greeting card to me. Well, another week has gone by and surprise NOTHING!  So I wrote to her telling her I’ve received nothing and she writes back (again right away) that she pulled it from the mail when she got my email dropping her.  Well she told me exactly who she was from the beginning didn’t she?

The moral of this story is…when someone (even of the same sex) tells you exactly who they are the first time you meet them, BELIEVE THEM!  Especially if it is something negative.  I’ve seen that happen over and over.  Do yourself a favor and disengage from them right away, they know themselves and are warning you right from the get-go.  Suffice to say I will never set up a client with someone who I find out behaves in this way.  I leave that to other Denver matchmaking services and the Internet dating sites.  I really try to protect my current clients at all costs from having to deal with these types of personalities.

ANOTHER MARRIAGE FROM BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE!

CONGRATULATIONS to Leslie and Tom on their recent marriage.  In the case of this couple each one selected several potential prospects, however they had each other high on their lists.  Consequently after their first choices didn’t click they were each other’s second choice.

After a year of dating they became engaged and now they are Bon Jour Matchmaking’s 313th couple!  Yes, this can work if you agree with my philosophy and are motivated to meet the right person regardless of how long that may take.

With my open-ended contracts for all clients, you have all the time in the world to find the person you’ve always hoped to spend your life with.  Bon Jour Matchmaking is filled with highly educated, physically fit, volunteer oriented, adventurous Denver and Front Range singles.  If that describes you, please review this site, read lots of Posts and give me a call if it resonates with you and you are a 27-65 year old professional at 303-756-8106

Again, I and all my clients congratulate Leslie and Tom!

WHAT IS INSANITY WHEN IT COMES TO USING A DENVER MATCHMAKER?

To quote the brilliant Albert Einstein, “The definition of INSANITY is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”  This was requoted to me by a new client prior to his interview as the reason he decided to stop using Internet dating sites and work with a professional Denver Matchmaker.

So that along with his age range which I found to be very appropriate and open-mindedness led me to believe that this would be a client who would be flexible and approach selecting matches differently than when he used the Internet dating sites.  Oh contrar…after viewing about 15 profiles and selecting one and one maybe I could see that the above quote, although recited by him, was not really how he felt and operated.

This is his logic in his selection process:

He has grown children and prefers someone who has had children BECAUSE that is a comfortable and natural place to start conversing.  So he shied away from women without children.  This would be an opportunity for him to stretch beyond his own comfort zone and learn how to converse and connect with anyone whether they’ve had children or not.

He’s 5’10” and did not want to meet anyone shorter than 5’4″ or taller than 5’8″.  No women with younger children under 13.  Because of allergies no women with multiple pets, ONLY really gorgeous women, etc., etc. and the list goes on.  It became clear that he was selecting exactly as he had on the Internet and Apps which he found unsuccessful.

So going back to the above definition of INSANITY, in his mind the fact that he is working with a Matchmaker is the element of difference from what he had been doing.  But in reality if he approaches working with me in the exact same way he did on the Internet and apps he’s apt to get the same results.  His perfect match might be someone 5’2″ and pretty or 5’5″ but with younger children or 5’3″ with no children…you get the idea.  Everyone has an idea of the “perfect” person for them based on past experience and preferences.  But if you are still alone you need to take a look at those and see which ones you would be willing to negotiate for other great traits.  Otherwise, you may stay as you are.

If you decide to do something different, do it differently and THEN maybe you will be successful.

DENVER MATCHMAKER ALWAYS WORKING

Yes, not only is Bon Jour Matchmaking Service in Denver, CO open 7 days a week, but I am also on the job all holidays!

Love doesn’t take a holiday and neither do I.  Also, I want to get as many Denver singles in before the new year as possible before my fees increase for my 25th Anniversary January, 2014.

So check out my hours on the Hours, Locations, etc. page and call me for your preliminary informational phone consultation and let’s see if we’re a good match…303-756-8106

DENVER MATCHMAKING BUSINESS IS BOOMING ON THIS 25th ANNIVERSARY

For some unknown but wonderful reason business is booming going into the 25th anniversary for Bon Jour Matchmaking Service!  Also, there are many situations that have come up this year that have never come up before.  The Universe is speaking and appreciating this well established Denver Matchmaker (click on the blue print to go to post).

The quality of the singles who are selecting to call me for their FREE initial phone consultation are of the highest quality and many fit into the established clientele.  Of  course there are folks who are focused on how many people they will meet, meeting for FREE to have me size them up and tell them if they are marketable, people who are totally unrealistic and more.  For those people I suggest other types of services that better fit their agenda.

Regardless of the people I decline to work with, obviously then the ones I decide to collaborate with and vice versa, who really get my philosophy and how the service can work for them, are the cream of the crop.  That doesn’t always mean they all are the richest or most attractive, but we all know there’s more to a person than money and looks, right???  But their education, backgrounds, lifestyle and community service add to their quality.

I feel very blessed this year in particular to have so many singles and new Denver residents contact me over the other local services.  They report that based on reading through this Website and comparing my length of time in business, the success rate, the philosophy, the advice and last but not least, the Bon Jour Testimonials (click on the blue print to go to post) they confide that they choose Bon Jour over other Denver matchmaking services as the real thing…

DENVER MATCHMAKER EXPLAINS HER WORK ETHIC

Although I’ve alluded to it in several posts I thought I would just directly explain what Bon Jour Matchmaking both provides to all clients and what is expected in return.  It’s not that I’m a control freak, it’s that I know all of my clients personally and individually so I know how they think.  Isn’t that what you want from a personal Matchmaker?

This is a total collaboration meaning from the very first time you call me I start noticing your grammar, whether your outgoing voice mail contains some part of your name (making it easier for a match to know they’ve called the right number) instead of something automated that could be anyone.

Whether you’ve paid attention to what I’ve explained multiple times in this website that if you wish to be quoted a fee you need to CALL me as there are several questions I need to ask that combine for your personal investment fee.  Because there is dating coaching with Bon Jour Matchmaking it is important for me to gauge whether you are receptive to suggestions and follow directions.

There is a specific time span in which clients need to contact me and each other when matched as well as a specific time frame in which you need to meet.  The reason for this is that you can only stay excited about meeting someone new for a limited period before you either get turned off by not hearing from them or jump to the conclusion they are not interested and/or unreliable.  A person’s enthusiasm for the meeting is most important and that can only be maintained for a fairly short time span.

I want you to be successful in this matchmaking endeavor.  Along that line, knowing what turns all of my clients on and off, I really try to work with you very personally tweaking what you write about that will interest them so that you will stand out and the types of photos that are the most favorable.  Your success in this Denver matchmaking service is not based on me, but primarily on you and how open you are, who you choose to meet, utilizing suggestions and being overall dependable, unlike clients in other services and the Internet dating sites.

I decline more singles than I accept based on the above and what I glean from our initial interactions.  Thus making Bon Jour a service with reliable clients who are serious about their romantic futures and a Matchmaker who is on call 7 days a week and holidays, returns calls and emails very quickly and never shies away from even a stressful interaction with clients.  A true collaboration with both client and Matchmaker holding up their responsibility to reach their goal.

REMEMBERING DANTE ZARLENGO

In the time that I’ve lived in Colorado I’ve had two best friends who I could always count on.  One was Rick Barber who is mentioned throughout this Blog.  The other was Dante Zarlengo.

Dante was an oil and gas attorney in the Denver law firm where Governor Dick Lamm practiced in the eighties.   I had the good fortune to work as a legal secretary for that firm and was assigned to Dante because he was so tough…bad handwriting and demanding.  My mother had horrible handwriting so I was able to decipher his.  We hit it off, as I always had with my bosses, and built a long and very dear friendship.  It was while working for Dante that I decided to start Bon Jour Matchmaking Service and make matchmaking my career.  (Click on the link to go to Post)

Dante helped me with all of the legalities needed to set up a business at no charge.  He was my friend, my supporter.  He was a giver…a great father of 3 very successful sons, a supportive and devoted husband, a wonderful lawyer and loyal friend.  Today is 21 years since his passing.  I can’t believe it…I met Rick Barber from KOA radio shortly before Dante passed away and was supposed to attend the ClearChannel Christmas party with Rick that evening of December 5, 2003.  I was not able to attend once I heard about Dante’s impending death.

But also today is the day Nelson Mandela left this earth so Dante is in good company.  Of all the days of the year and the many months President Mandela was ill, he passed on the same day as my dear friend Dante Zarlengo.  Dante died from lung cancer (he never smoked) eight months after being diagnosed.  The American doctors proclaimed there was nothing they could do and gave him a prognosis of 2 to 5 years.  So Dante tried an experimental treatment in Zurich.  In my opinion that treatment hastened his death.  But he fought until the very end tooth and nail.  It was just his time.  I sincerely hope that he found more happiness in his next life than he found in this one.

The Zarlengo family is well known in Denver with many professionals such as dentists, judges, attorneys, etc.  It is a large Italian family with roots in Colorado.

I still miss Dante every day and feel blessed to have not only worked for and known this kind man, but also to call him my friend.

WHO ARE BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE’S CLIENTS?

If you are wondering what types of qualities, vocations, personality traits and heart describe the Denver singles who choose to become clients of Bon Jour Matchmaking, my clients are fortunate enough to have stable finances and are givers.  They believe strongly in giving back to the world due to their own good fortune.  Following is a summary:

VOCATIONS:

Engineers; Petroleum Engineers; Owners of International Companies; Psychologists; Psychotherapists; Doctors; Architects; Pharmacists; Attorneys; Physicians; Veterinarians; Real Estate Professionals; Physical Therapist; Organizational Psychologist; College Internal Auditor; Business Owners; Sales Managers for Tech Companies; Environmental Health and Safety Expert; Financial Advisors; Optometrist; Graphic Artist; government finance, a variety of doctors of various specialties.

VOLUNTEER ACTIVITIES:

Animal shelter volunteers; Eco-tourism in Guatemala; Red Cross crisis volunteer; hospice volunteer; Peace Corps; Doctors Without Boarders; post Katrina assistance; United Nations Refugee Camp in Hong Kong for Vietnamese “Boat People”; Red Cross Disaster Action Team; Emergency Medical Technician; BOD of Easter Seals Colorado; BOD of Mullen High School Foundation; Big Brothers/Big Sisters; Project C.U.R.E.; Habitat for Humanity; Heifer International

TRAVEL:

Africa, UK, Russia, Hong Kong, Singapore, Philippines, Australia, Papua New Guinea, Costa Rica, Italy, Thailand, Uganda, British Columbia, Germany, England, France, Scotland, Wales, Jordan, New Zealand, Afghanistan, British Virgin Islands, Galapagos Islands, Venezuela, Nepal, Bhutan, Peru, Kilimanjaro, Aleutian Islands, extensive domestic travel

HOBBIES:

Exotic car restoration and racing; home restoration; collections of artwork, cars; spectator sports; martial arts; whitewater rafting; NAIA Academic All American; Navy Reserves; bungy jumping; para-sailing; Yoga; skiing; biking; fly fishing; hiking; skydiving; pilots; marathons; fast cars; concerts; charity walk/runs; horseback riding; kayaking; traveling

INSTRUMENTS:

Guitar; drums; keyboard; piano; flute; singer/songwriter

INCOMES:

$100,000-$1,000,000

Do you see yourself in these descriptions?  If so and you are looking for your last permanent relationship go to Posts To Read Before Joining Any Denver Matchmaking Service (click on this link) and check it out.  If it makes sense to you please give me a call 303-756-8106.