WARNING…ANOTHER CRIMINAL REPORTED POSTING ON MATCH.COM

All information about Denver matchmaking services has come directly from either printed reviews and material already online and/or from callers or clients.  This is not my personal review.

Internet Dating Sites CAN Be Dangerous

Yesterday Dr. Phil had a female guest on the show who told a story of how she met a guy on Match.com.  She explained that his profile was normal and he was attractive (they showed his pictures).  So she met him and dated him for eight (8) days.  Around the 8th day she found that he was looking over her shoulder when she used her cell phone wanting to know who was calling and who she had called.  That was her first red flag.

That was enough of a red flag for her to stop seeing him.  She actually bowed out of the relationship quite gracefully saying that she really wasn’t ready to date yet.  Within a short period of time (not that day but I forget how long) she found him in her garage with a butcher knife.  He proceeded to stab her all about her head and neck.  Fortunately she was able to scream and a neighbor heard her and called the police.  By the grace of God she lived but is still having PTSD lingering with her.

This guy from Match.com had no previous record, just like the “alleged” theatre murderer, and his goal clearly was to kill her.  They showed pictures of her stabbed head from her hospital bed.  He went to prison and ended up killing himself in prison.

So there are two lessons here:  background checks don’t clear someone.  Perhaps they just haven’t been caught yet!  You can’t be a serial whatever unless you haven’t been caught.  So services that charge you extra for background checks are worthless and it’s money thrown away.  Also if someone is using an alias their background check will come up clean.

Additionally, several known felons have had profiles on Match.com such as Amy Fisher who tried to kill her lover’s wife, the “alleged” theatre killer, Dateline NBC had a story about another guy a woman met on Match.com.  Just to name few who I can remember but I’ve heard of others.  Obviously this is not just a Match.com issue.  ANY Internet dating site is a perfect hiding place for felons as people lie on those all the time.  Even people without records who are “normal” individuals but are crazy are hiding things on those sites.  So BE CAREFUL when trying to save money by going on Internet dating sites.  Is your life or your well-being worth saving a few dollars?

As a Professional Denver Matchmaker I work from my home office and in 25 years have never had an issue.  But I am adept at screening people over the phone and if someone even sounds a little off (whether male or female) I will not accept them as a client.  So I, myself, am your first line of defense both for myself and my clients.

March 21, 2014

Watching another episode of Dateline NBC where a couple had separated and the wife went on Match.com, met a school superintendent and had a friendship with him.  Then she reconciled with her husband, he saw some emails to this superintendent and went out and killed him!  The Internet dating sites are very dangerous…if nothing has happened yet, consider yourself lucky and stop using them.

SNOW SKI OR FORGET IT…Really?

Of course living in Denver for 33 years I realize and know that there are a majority of Denverites who ski, moved here for that reason and are obsessed with it.  But Colorado has varied weather all year round which attributes to residents loving all sorts of activities.  And we even have very warm summers regularly.

So when a new client joins Bon Jour Matchmaking Service and we go through a 5 page questionnaire filled with information on background, education, compatibility preferences, etc. and that new client will ONLY view profiles of people who ski…do I need to say more about why they are still single?  This is why according to 5280 Magazine it is so hard to date in Denver.  I can tell you that people who come in here focused on ONE criteria to the exception of all else are not the successful ones who reach their ultimate goal.  They may meet people who fit that but there is so much more to a marriage or partnership than one aspect, especially as a couple ages.

Especially people who are more “mature” in age.  With friends and clients I’ve seen time and time again where someone was an avid skier and exactly because of that ended up blowing out their knee(s) or some other permanent injury and can no longer ski.  So if your entire criteria, for the most part, is based on do they ski or do they climb fourteeners or whatever hobby you are obsessed with without considering many more important, deeper factors/personality traits, i.e. loyalty, kindness, consideration, honesty, compatibility in other more in-depth areas, this is not a relationship that is going to last.  And I am in the business of facilitating unions to go the distance.

REMEMBER:  Hobbies and interests can be cultivated.  Morals and values are the basis of a strong, long lasting relationship and will take it the long haul.  Also, you can’t ski here in the summer, so then what?  Don’t sell Colorado short, there are tons of things to do here besides ski.

DENVER MATCHMAKER’S SINGLES ARE REALISTIC WHEN LOOKING FOR LOVE

626 Denver singles have tied the knot through Bon Jour Matchmaking Service.  Thousands of professional Denver singles have tried Bon Jour since 1989 and there has developed a clear profile of the clients who marry.  There are two important components: patience and realism.  It’s that simple.

A client who is most apt to find a mate is one who has reasonable and realistic expectations and criteria.  Who is not looking to play a numbers game, hoping for the best.  But takes their time with Michele the Matchmaker choosing the most compatible and appealing matches.  Someone who dates within their age range, not 15-20 years younger.  Someone who is not looking for a “model” or perfection.   A mature client who wants to relate to their partner on all levels, not looking for a cougar set-up or sugar daddy scenario.

Clients who are realistic about themselves and what they have to offer have the most successful experience.  Who realize that this match will probably and hopefully be their last.  The person you choose for your latter years is often not the person you would choose in your 20’s or 30’s.  Your criteria shifts and should shift with maturity.  No gold diggers here or older men looking for arm candy.  This is not the service for those agendas!

When deciding to hire a professional Matchmaker after you’ve tried the Internet dating sites, social groups, party groups, franchise dating services, etc. you should also decide that the way you are going to select potential mates will be different.  If you go about selecting people in the same way you always have, then choosing to work with a matchmaker is not going to make any difference.  Different venue, same “MO”.  If you are going to approach the goal trusting a matchmaker, you should go about the process differently than you have been.  THEN you may find the success you seek.  Doesn’t that make sense to you?

The clients who marry are fit, well educated, well rounded people who are Denver singles who genuinely offer themselves with an open mind and an open heart and one of the most important qualities…patience.  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service is not a dating service but an old fashioned matchmaking service.

ANOTHER SERVICE SOLICITING MY EXPERTISE AND YOUR MONEY

I received the e-mail below today.  After looking at their site it is clear it was a form letter and they didn’t even bother to read my website or they would not have solicited me.  If you are moving to Denver or anywhere for that matter, there is a thing called the Internet where you can look for local matchmakers, i.e., Google, Bing or Yahoo search (or wherever) Denver Matchmakers.  There is no need to pay two services when you can find it yourself!  This is not how I operate and you should ask LOTS of questions before handing money over to them:

 “My name is Emily Hellman and I am the founder, owner, and head matchmaker at Caliber Match. I’m really trying to get to know other matchmakers in the industry and wanted to introduce myself.

Caliber Match is a national matchmaking firm that also offers dating and relationship coaching. We’re headquartered in Arizona, but because I’m able to take on clients from anywhere in the US (and some regions of Canada), I’d like to connect with you. There are times that I have potential clients come to me because we’re national, but they really want that personal, face-to-face relationship with their matchmaker or coach. I’d love to be able to refer you potential clients that want that face-to-face relationship (assuming you take referrals). On the reverse, I’d love to be a reference point for you to refer potential clients that come to you that you’re not able to take on because of their location (or budget, goals, etc.). I pay a minimum of 20% for all referrals.

I’d also like to know if you’d be willing to work together on matches. I pay a referral fee for matches that fit my clients as well. I also have an amazing (free) singles’ member base with quality singles across the country, so if you’re ever looking for matches for your clients and you need another resource, let me know what you’re looking for and I’ll see if I have any potential matches for you!!

I know you’re busy, but if you have time I’d love to chat for even just 10-15 minutes. You can always reach me through my email or by leaving a message on my cell phone (406-XX2-XXXX).

Looking forward to hearing back from you, and have a wonderful day!!

Lots of Love,

Emily”

This is the third solicitation I’ve received from out-of-state matchmaking services trying to get clients from me or with me or use my clientele this year.  I do not get a good feeling about these types of services.  They either say or imply they are discriminating with their matches but clearly they are not as they don’t know any of my clients or me.  Why would you pay two services when you can find a service yourself and only need one?

Just two days ago I received an email from a dentist in Oklahoma who used a “national matchmaking firm” who is trying to get his credit card company to stop payment on his $4,000 fee because this company (which is referred to in another Post in this Blog) misrepresented themselves and their clients to him.

 

IS THIS YOU? THEN YOU ARE A GOOD PROSPECT FOR BON JOUR MATCHMAKING

I do not decide exclusively upon my own criteria whether we should work together.  Primarily that has been decided by my current clients who have been very specific as to their preferences and criteria…just like you would be if you were a client.  Bon Jour is the ONLY Denver matchmaking service that does not have any reviews stating the client was set up with people who did not fit their specified criteria.  So, don’t take it personally and don’t blame the messenger (me) if I feel that we shouldn’t work together.  Rather be grateful that I told you the truth and did not scam you out of your money!

Just to try and make things simpler, following is a list of traits that will tell you if you and Bon Jour Matchmaking Service are a good match which include both my perameters and my clients’ criteria:

  1. You have read to some extent through this website;
  2. You understand the philosophy of Bon Jour as a matchmaking service NOT a dating service;
  3. You perceive my clients as a clientele NOT a database;
  4. Your background check is clean;
  5. Female clients prefer men who are 5’7″ or taller without shoes and weight should be proportionate to height;
  6. Male clients prefer women who are no more than a size 10;
  7. My female clients are well educated and prefer men who are equally educated;
  8. None of my clients will date smokers;
  9. None of my clients will consider someone who is separated;
  10. None of my clients will consider someone with sleeve or full body tattoos;
  11. You are NOT obsessed with how many people I have for you to meet, because once I hear your preferences that number will surely drop;
  12. You are looking to meet age appropriate matches NOT people much younger who don’t want to meet people in your age range;
  13. You are a woman between 30 and 65; You are a man between 35 and 65 at this time December, 2025;
  14. You understand that meeting a bunch of people who do not fit your preferences and criteria is not what I do here.  (For example: packages of dates for a finite period of time which is what other local services do);
  15. You understand that you are only matched with people both who fit your preferences and you fit theirs. YOU make the final decision on who you meet;
  16. You are willing to listen to and perhaps follow my coaching;
  17. You may meet as many people as you feel are an appropriate match, however the goal is to be discerning enough that you meet the “right” one on your first or second match…regardless of how long that may take;
  18. Your goal is to meet the RIGHT person NOT a bunch of the wrong people and that may take time;
  19. You understand that the perfect person may not be on file the exact day you interview;
  20. You understand that this is not a race.  We are looking for the “right” person and that may take time thus the open-ended contract.  You are in the service until you reach your goal.

If you feel that this describes you then call me for your FREE phone consultation!  No appointment necessary for that.  If you genuinely feel this is a numbers game, this is NOT the right service for you.  I am a Matchmaker with all that implies.

DENVER MEN, DO YOU LOOK LIKE THIS?

Every day I receive calls at Bon Jour Matchmaking Service from single Denver men who exclaim they want beautiful, fit women to meet.  My question to you is do you look like Pierce Brosnan, Clive Owens or Hugh Jackman?  These are Hollywood’s sexiest men and not only because they are soooooo handsome but even more so because of who they’ve chosen to spend their lives with.  If you don’t look like any of these types of men, maybe you need to reassess the “beautiful model type” you are searching for.

These are long married and happy couples.  Not like the ones choosing only models who play musical wives.  And have you noticed, you don’t hear about these men cheating on their wives like with men who were married to beautiful women like Halle Barry, Sandra Bullock, Tiger Woods’ ex-wife or Jennifer Aniston and yes, even Christie Brinkley, etc.   Which are you?????

If You Could Build a Denver Matchmaking Service What Would You Include?

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Would you want as long as it takes to find the right person?  Bon Jour Matchmaking has an open-ended contract.

Would you want to see photos of potential matches?  Every profile in Bon Jour has 6 pictures of each client including head shots and full length shots.

Would you want to meet as many or few people as you felt you were attracted to?  You may meet however many people you feel are a good match in Bon Jour.

Would you want to see extensive profiles filled with information?  Every Bon Jour client has a 6 page questionnaire.

Would you want a Denver matchmaker with many years of experience?  Michele Fields has been professionally matchmaking since 1989!

Would you want to be able to view profiles and pictures of potential matches?  Bon Jour Matchmaking’s structure is all about sharing tons of information about each client.

Would you want to be interviewed in a public place or a private office?  Bon Jour is located in a private office so that you may share very personal information and feelings with your matchmaker.

Would you want a fair investment in this service?  Rather than charge what Michele thinks you can pay, the totality of your situation directs what your investment will be.  Meaning…how much does Michele think she can do for you within your preferences, age range, location, etc.

Would you want to feel out the matchmaker prior to deciding to join the service for as long as that takes?  FREE telephone consultations are invited just for that purpose.

How about that…it’s already here!  Bon Jour Matchmaking Service, est. 1989

REVIEWS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE THAT YELP WON’T PUBLISH

Below are several reviews that clients took time out of their busy lives to write in support and appreciation of Bon Jour Matchmaking on Yelp.  However, Yelp in it’s wisdom has hidden ALL of them under “reviews currently not recommended”.  So here are a few of them:

Another hidden review by Yelp:

I have worked for and with match makers in the past and having been with Michele’s services for the past several years, I can say she is the real deal. She is honest, direct, and truly cares for your success. While my perfect match remains elusive, I have been introduced to the highest quality of women I can imagine meeting who are all looking for the same thing: relationship success. You are not only investing in a relationship goal with Michele, but also your personal growth with her coaching. You just have to be honest with yourself in what you are looking for, be able to accept sound and direct advice, and Michele will help with the rest.

I’m happy my contract with her is open-ended until I meet the right woman. There’s no worry that you have ‘X’ amount of matches, and you’re done. You will need to fill out some very detailed information about who you are and what you are looking for. You are never presented with a match you are not a good fit for. You simply pay a $35 introduction fee to meet with interested matches. Please bear in mind her services aren’t for everyone. She knows what her clientele is looking for and will be honest whether you’re a good match for her services or not. If you’re done with the rat race that is dating these days, invest some time in communicating with Michele to see if she’s a good fit for your relationship goals.

Dr.  Allen Mok, Arvada, CO

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8/2/19 Reviews Yelp has hidden:

It has truly been a pleasure to get to know and work with Michele Fields, Bon Jour Matchmaking. She is honest and upfront and also warm and personable, a combination that is perfect for what she does. Her commitment to keep looking for the right person for each client as long as the client wants her to (for just one initial fee!) is unique in my experience. Although I have not yet found that “special someone,” I know Michele will do everything she can to help me. I highly recommend Michele’s matchmaking service.   Ann O., Denver, CO

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I decided to use a matchmaking service for several reasons. I did not seem to be meeting women who really wanted to be serious, and I felt I needed some honest feedback about me and how I present myself. I researched several options, but always came back to Michele’s Bon Jour web site, and finally decided to sign up with her. The main thing that sold me was that she is an independent owner-operator, not an “agent” of a larger company or franchise. Her web site, and a couple of phone discussions, gave me the impression of someone who will deal with me openly and honestly, who is sincere and grounded, and who truly seems to be interested in making a match for me rather than just collecting another client fee. There have been no surprises, everything that Michele outlines on her web site, and what we discussed on the phone has been exactly how the process has worked for me. She has been very responsive to my questions and concerns as we have started working together, and is definitely giving me suggestions of things that I can improve in myself. I am really looking forward to working together with her to have my last first date.   Brad K., Denver

1/17/19 Another client review hidden by Yelp…5 stars

Last year, I was tired on online dating sites/apps and began looking for a service with a more personal approach. Someone who would be on my side, listen to me, get to know who I am, and provide honest, concise feedback. In my search I found Bon Jour Matchmaking and reached out to Michele to discuss her service. We had a very good, down-to-earth, and honest discussion on dating and relationships. I found her to be quite refreshing and logical. Shortly hereafter I was dating through her service. Michele’s coaching prior to the dates helped my getting to know my date, resulting in conversations flowing smoothly. The feedback afterwards was also very useful for me. It clearly showed me how potential mates are viewing me, so I can make adjustments prior to the next date. Looking back over my experience and my many conversations with Michele, I do trust her to provide good dating advice and high quality assistance in my achieving my goal.

Brian, Age 58

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I’ve tried a couple of local Denver matchmakers and was very dissatisfied.  For 3 basic reasons, no info on my matches per se, they didn’t follow my preferences we discussed at length and they either didn’t return or answer my calls or emails or it took forever.  So I decided to try one more time and contacted Bon Jour.  Immediately it was obvious that Michele has been in this business for a very long time.  Her website was loaded with info and she spent as much time as needed to answer all my questions and I had a lot.  So we’ve been together for several months and I’ve found her warm, accessible, interested in me and very promptly answers calls and emails.  Her clientele is far superior to who I met in the other services and she shares tons of info and pictures of each potential match.  I’m not the easiest person to work with and with that said I’ve found Michele to excel in our interactions.

Katie, Age 32

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8/30/17 Another client review hidden by Yelp…5 stars

Michele’s reputation as, “The Matchmaker” in Denver is well deserved! I joined Bon Jour and have only very positive things to say about my experience. I had my first introduction in 2 weeks and my experience with Michele has exceeded my expectations. Bon Jour focuses on having clients meet quality people. All of the profiles Michele reviewed with me were very attractive and successful women. Her in person interview included reviewing photos and detailed profile descriptions of other women together. Michele’s matchmaking service is much different than other matchmaking companies in Denver, which pay very little attention to their client’s requests. I used to be a member of a Denver based match making service and all of my matches for 1 year were completely off base, especially from a physical standpoint. Most importantly, Michele takes the guess work out of dating. She’s in constant communication with you and guides you in the right direction when you meet someone. This includes coaching and giving advice when it’s needed. That’s invaluable in my opinion! Let’s face it…dating can be exhausting and frustrating. But it’s wonderful to know that Michele is honest and sincerely cares about her clients.
D. H., M.D., Age 41

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5/4/17  Another client wrote this review yesterday and Yelp has already hidden it.  She is NOT happy!  Review follows:

5 Stars

I just joined Michele’s service a couple of months ago and have nothing but great things to say! I contacted her because I’m feeling entirely burned out with online dating and am looking for a mate. Michele is supportive, genuine and forthright. I know she has my best interests in mind because she vets potential clients. Her service is very hands on and she coaches her clients–so you have to be able to communicate honestly with good rapport. I was impressed by her open-ended contract and the fact that she has been doing this for 28 years. This is her calling. Only a person confident in their service and with a strong track record of success would offer an open-ended contract (all the other local services in town contract for a certain period of time and charge, in my humble opinion, confiscatory amounts). Her website has a ton of great information and the goal isn’t to provide you with a million matches. The goal is to zero in on what her clients are looking for and for them to find a strong connection with one of the first few people they meet. While the the right man for me hasn’t presented himself yet, I know that joining Michele’s service makes it more likely I meet someone perfect for me! 🙂 EDIT: Also, not sure why over 20 reviews aren’t recommended by Yelp? But, be sure to check those out too.  Taylor H.

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Here’s another but they may hide this one too:

5 Stars

I’ve used the dating websites for years, but it wasn’t until Michele provided a better match for me than the websites ever did, that I realized how wrong the websites were. They claim that their matches are based on different aspects of your personality, but there’s no one-on-one conversation to truly understand the personality. Michele told me about a couple of personal issues that were holding me back from meeting the right person, and I appreciated that bluntness. When she matched matched me with someone recently that has the same thought process that I do, I realized that the long-term relationships from my past, from the website, were extremely far off. Those previous relationships, despite being 6-18 months long, were actually not very good matches, despite what the website suggested. I recommend Michele’s Matchmaking service because it’s an actual person doing the matching and not a computer algorithm that thinks it knows better.  Aaron Q.

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5 Stars

When I decided to go with a service, I had heard horror stories from friends who had been charged confiscatory amounts by other agencies and who had been matched randomly with other women regardless of their preferences to satisfy those agencies’ “annual number of dates” policies. I put in a lot of time investigating matchmaking agencies and decided to go with Michele, and am very glad I did.

From the beginning, you can tell Michele’s is not merely a service, but rather a calling for her. She first spends a fair amount of time with you on the phone in order to get a sense of your personality, what you’re looking for in a person and in life, and why you’re coming to her. She thus weeds out both people whom she feels she can’t help and those who are just “gold diggers,” “players” or otherwise aren’t serious about finding a lasting relationship.

She follows this up with a substantially longer in-person interview at which you pay your one-time, open-ended fee (I paid $1700.) This is just a fraction of what other agencies charge, and other agencies charge their (in many case FIVE FIGURE) fees ANNUALLY; Michele’s fee is good for however long it takes to find your match.

Michele’s service isn’t like other dating agencies where you’re provided with a database or book of profiles to leaf through and pick out what you think you might want, but rather Michele uses her skills and experience to pick out the people she feels would make the best match for YOU. This is why her interview process is so extensive; how could you trust a matchmaker that didn’t truly know you AND your prospective match in detail? Anyone can puff up a profile or provide years-old photos; you can’t get away with those tricks with Michele. She’ll only introduce you to clients who meet the criteria you are looking for, and more importantly, who are also looking for YOU.

Michele is very honest and up-front about herself, her service, and what you can expect from her, something I appreciated ever so much given the very slimy tactics of many other agencies in the business, especially those that spend a lot of money on glossy magazine ads. More importantly, Michele will not accept you as a client unless she feels she can truly help you find your match and that you would be the kind of match her other clients are looking for; it would be trivial for her to just accept fees from ANYONE but that’s simply NOT in her nature.

Michele’s the real deal. She naturally can’t promise that she’ll find you the love of your life, but at the very least you’ll certainly meet people of a much higher caliber than those found on online dating sites or that you’re likely to run into “organically.”

If you’re sick of the dating game and are truly looking for the match of your life, I couldn’t possibly recommend Michele’s service more.   William K.

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5 Stars

Michele had a page on her matchmaking service site about another service and ‘how people like this other woman’ reduce the credibility of legitimate matchmakers! Well I happened to have used this other woman that Michele was talking about . I sent Michele a brief email and she called me right away to discuss my options and I learned from my mistake. I found Michele very honest and upfront. Michele was also so sweet and spent so much time with me speaking about my situation with the other matchmaker . Bon Jour was charging initial $1000 fee compared to $5-10k for other matchmaking agencies. I wish I would have used her service from the get-go!  Ella S.

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5 Stars

I’ve been a member of BonJour for about 3 months. Michelle invests a lot time getting to know her clients and coaching them on how to change their behavior and how to attract, and keep, a quality mate. Michelle personalizes each match for her clients after meeting them IN PERSON and getting to know their personality. She reviews potential matches with each client and speaks with each person after the initial few dates. By doing this, she is able to provide feedback and additional coaching. This personalized aspect, in my experience, is unique to BonJour. The reasonable prices are a huge bonus as well. I would highly recommend Michelle.  Natalie B.

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5 Stars

So far so good. I joined during the summer and met a couple of fantastic women. The quality every man hopes to meet. Unfortunately there was no chemistry but because of the high quality of women I look forward to meeting the match for me that clicks on both sides. I have the utmost faith in Michele’s process and did a long research of local matchmakers prior to joining Bon Jour Matchmaking. I believe I made the right decision and because of the open contract I have lots of time to find the right woman for me. I would recommend this service if you are sincere about finding a lifelong mate. I’m putting 5 stars in anticipation of meeting my future wife with the assistance of Michele the matchmaker. Tom T.

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5 Stars

Michele Fields has been a matchmaker in Denver for 24 years. I have been in her service for a couple of years and she does an excellent job. We are lucky to have such a great local matchmaker. I have tried Match, JDate, E Harmony, and a couple of others. These services don’t compare to Bon Jour. I have met way more quality people thru Michele’s service. You never know who and what you are meeting with these other services. I have been scammed thru a couple of these national services.

Bon Jour’s price is very reasonable and well worth it. She has a great client base and you know you are going to meet a quality individual.  She is a pleasure to deal with and I highly recommend this service.  Cliff B.

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5 Stars

I became a member in 2009 and paid $600 at the time. Michele is honest and forthright, earnest and interested, and works really hard for me as an individual. I think using her service is a great idea because its so hard to find people that are serious about finding a lifelong partner – Michele has clients that on ONLY serious about looking for a lifelong partner, and she knows each of us really well. She contacts me regularly for updates about my life and interests and encourages me a lot. I am a fan, as you can see.  Camille B.

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5 Stars

I joined Bon Jour Matchmaking service in December. I was hesitant at first because I’ve always just done internet dating. But, I decided to go ahead and contact Michele anyway. During our conversation she asked me my age and I told her 41. At that time she said she didn’t have as many clients in the age range of my preference, but she said we could stay in touch in the future just in case she had someone come in asking for someone my age. But a few days later, Michele called me to let me know after we spoke, she changed her mind and decided to expand her age of clients and that I had persuaded her to do so. She was very up front over the phone about expectations and policies and what I needed to do. She set an appointment for me to come down and meet her to go over everything more in detail including the fee. She was very personable and took the time to get to know me and it was then that I knew she would be looking out for my best interest. I was very satisfied and comfortable with her and found the fee to be very reasonable. She has continued to touch base with me through email and phone providing me with updates as to the pool of potential dates. I realize she doesn’t have a magic wand to make a match and make love happen, but I figured I’d have better chances with her than trying to do it on my own via internet dating. They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result…well, I’m putting the end to insanity and going with Michele; so when I do meet someone through Michele, it’s not up to her whether it works or not, it’s up to me. If you are single and looking to meet a professional and educated potential match….I highly recommend you call Michele and set an appointment.   Jeff F.

YELP REVIEWS OF BON JOUR MATCHMAKING SERVICE

I guess I don’t understand how Yelp works…it seems to have lost all credibility.  There are positive reviews by clients that Yelp has hidden who have actually USED Bon Jour Matchmaking.  As soon as they get something negative they post it.  They shouldn’t be posting reviews of people who have never used the service.  At the bottom of my page on YELP it says 44 reviews not currently recommended in light gray print…click on that and read those reviews also!  Those reviews were from clients, not one-time callers who I declined to work with and got mad and wrote a review.

Currently there is a post by a Kirsten S. who has never been a client of mine.  She phoned me yesterday and I got up out of a sick bed and half asleep to chat with her.  I spent an hour explaining both how Denver matchmaking and Denver dating services work.  Going into great detail as to the differences in Bon Jour from the other local services.  As always, I spent a lot of time answering her questions as I’ve been in this field for 36+ years and have a lot of information to share.

Towards the end of the conversation, she asked me questions that left me thinking that the information I shared went in one ear and out the other.  She never mentioned that she was in school for her Phd. so, on her post I don’t even know if that is true.  Reading her review she STILL doesn’t get it, can you imagine that with all the info on this site as well as an hour phone consultation…anyway, your FREE phone consultation is exactly for this reason.

I assessed that she did not understand the philosophy of Bon Jour Matchmaking or the structure, so I suggested that she keep looking for a more suitable matchmaking service and wished her good luck.  In short order she called back apologizing for I guess not getting it or not listening or something I presume trying to get me to reconsider, but it was clear to me that she would not make a good client.  I am very protective of my clientele and only accept about half the people who phone me for the service to keep it upscale and safe.  You can meet unstable people on dating apps and other services.

If her description of the service in her review had been correct, I doubt I would still be matchmaking after 36+ years.  It is absolutely scary that just because I declined to accept her as a client she would go to this length.  Can you imagine someone complaining because I did NOT take their money?

She has now posted the same negative review on Yelp.com, Pissedconsumer.com and Kudzu.com on Bon Jour.  I sure made the right call on that.  Instead of thanking me for saving her the money (I quoted her my lowest fee BTW), she is dealing with my honesty by bashing a service she has never used and clearly does not understand.  I have another post on this Blog explaining that not all reviews are a reflection of the service, but rather the reviewer and their own issues.  This is obviously one of those.

HOW TO IMPRESS YOUR DENVER MATCHMAKER MICHELE

I start evaluating everything about you from your first contact with me.  If written I notice grammar, spelling, and politeness.  If by phone, attitude, philosophy (i.e., it’s a numbers game, how many are in your “database”?), and our communication styles with each other.  This is such a personal endeavor it is important that we communicate well with each other.  As I’ve said many times on this site, I turn down more people than I accept based on a wide variety of factors.

I had a woman call me and leave a message.  So, I returned the call promptly and didn’t hear back.  (I do not chase after clients like other Denver Matchmaking Services.  I want to see your level of interest, reliability and motivation).  Months later she called again leaving another message.  Again, I returned her call promptly and again never heard from her.  This shows me a number of things about her and none of them are good.  IF she calls again I will not work with her. My clients deserve people who are sincerely motivated and reliable and that’s what I try to give them.  She has already made a bad impression.

More than likely you will only meet with me face to face once, at your initial interview.  When you dress for the interview remember I am your representative, agent, promoter, confidant and coach.  I am your advocate, I’m on your side to facilitate the best result in your quest.  So just like a job interview you need to make a good impression at this one opportunity.  That means visually as well as personality and attitude.  The more you cooperate, collaborate and follow through in a timely manner, the better our relationship will be.

As with your pictures you need to put a lot of thought into what you wear to the interview.  Also, if you are difficult, indecisive or combative throughout the interviewing process that does not make a good impression.  This is an interview like any other so put your best foot and attitude forward.  The nicer and more appealing you are the more I will be apt to recommend you over someone else and push someone towards you when they are on the fence!